From: The Readers!
Hello Sexual Griot,
I'm writing because I just finished reading your articles on
ymib. http://ymib.com/content/view/397/99/ and http://ymib.com/content/view/396/99/.
Many props to you for real!
I really liked them a lot. It is always amazing to me how in these patriarchial
(I'm not sure I spelled that right, lol) societies that men are encouraged to
explore themselves but women are to do the OPPOSITE! 
My
intimate partner encouraged me to explore myself and not be ashamed about it.
It's ashame how due to all of the factors you named in your second article, how
disconnected females are from their own bodies.
S.S.
Response to the Celibacy Article
Can't Wait
I entered celibacy about 5 years ago in an effort to reclaim my sexuality. So
much of this article rings true for me. I've learned and grown through a lot
these past few years and I feel like I have so much more understanding of my
authentic self and, therefore, so much more to offer. I can't wait until the
Sexual Griot's column really kicks off. I'm looking forward to the opportunity
to learn from and share with sistahs that are feelin' like I do. It's such a shame
that we live in such a hyper-sexed society yet have so little useful knowledge
about sexuality.
Peace!
Plenteous
FEAR OF SEXUALITY
1. I FEAR IT! I fear being used, diseases, pregnancy risks, all of that. I fear being raped.
2. I honestly don't know or remember how my beliefs and views about sex were shaped. I learned about the human body and anatomy. I don't believe in waiting for marriage either. I guess I viewed it negatively because our society in my opinion has cheapened it. I viewed it as a bad thing.
G.P.
SUPER FREAK CALLING
Hey all, I've been bunged up sexually for quite a long
time. Too tired, too freaked out, too whatever to just lay back and let
my man love me up. Recently, we went through some very heavy mess that
left me shaken, fearful and distrustful. My friend the shrink told me
that recovery isn't about trusting him, it'sabout trusting myself. So, I
finally just called on my power animals to help me through, and was able to
make love with him for the first time in three months. Just this morning,
I reached for him, and even though I had a "fear program" running in
my head, I was able to gift myself with the pleasure of making love with
him.
I used to be the horny gal, hornily alone, that is, because I wasn't into
"casual" sex. Oh my goodness, I sure did know my body! My
pillow and I were gooood friends! And fantasies! I still maintain
my "files" to use when I am in the mood. Who's there?
Let's see...a cute Vietnamese woman I used to work with, a hot guy from the
Nicaraguan Embassy in DC, the Korean mechanic who services my rototiller, the
guy who was on WB50's short lived Tarzan series, a busty red haired friend and
her husband whom I had crushes on about 12 years ago...My challenge is to be as
"free" sexually in my real life as I am in my fantasies. I'm
Scorpio, which means that the freak resides within and without, and Superfreak
is calling to be released again...
J.H.
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